Tuesday, January 31, 2006

No Prince Charming - You’ve got to be kidding me





By Rose DesRochers

It all started with, “Once upon a time there lived a noble gentleman who had a little girl.”

Stop right there and rewind! Before we get to the end of this story, where two people go off and live a fairy tale life, I have to tell you that there is no Prince Charming.

The sooner that we ladies wake up and realize that, the better life will be.

The average woman spends her life waiting for that perfect man, the one who completes her. He’s the one for whom she would not only give her heart, but her life. She keeps hoping and praying that Prince Charming will ride up on his horse and sweep her off her feet, and then they’ll ride off together and live happily ever after.

What you see in movies and read in books isn’t what real relationships are about.

The perfect man isn't out there. Do you want to know why he isn’t out there? Because, he doesn’t exist! In my opinion, there is no such thing as perfect. Like every woman, each man has his flaws, his weaknesses, and his strengths. How can a woman expect a perfect man, when we as women are not perfect?

In the movie, “The Perfect Man” Holly Hamilton (played by Hillary Duff) creates the illusion of "the perfect man" for her single mother, Jean Hamilton (played by Heather Locklear) who believes that she needs a man to be complete. Along the way Holly and Jean both learn that life isn’t really all that simple. Of course the movie is flawed because she winds up with a guy in the end. Go figure!

But my point in all of this is: Ladies true happiness comes from within and while you are busy searching for that perfect man; you could be missing out on someone very special.

There may be such a thing as true love, but you won’t find it kissing frogs. He won’t be placing a glass slipper on your foot and he won’t say the right words and do the right things all the time.

Quit dreaming about fairy tales and start living your life. As one learns to see one’s self more clearly, she will see others more clearly. Don’t be influenced by images and illusion.

Life's funny that way. We spend so much time searching for a Prince. We have to ask ourselves if we are looking for love while blindfolded? A successful relationship is hard work and it takes commitment from both parties to make it last a lifetime. Remember that we all have faults and we all have short comings. Sometimes you just have to meet somewhere in the middle.

While there may be no such thing as a true "Prince Charming" and life isn’t quite like you dreamed as a child. There certainly may be a man out there that can be the next best thing.

Ok, start the story. “Once upon a time there lived a noble gentleman who had a little girl.”

I bet you can’t wait to see the ending.



About the Author

About the Author: Rose DesRochers is the founder of Today’s Woman Writing Community , a supportive online writing community for men and women over 18. Rose DesRochers is also the founder of Blogger Talk Blog Community, a friendly fast growing blogging portal, offering bloggers support, advice, tools, tips and information about blogs and blogging. Vist Rose DesRochers's blog at Rose DesRochers- World outside my Window.


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6 comments:

sue @ postcards from paradise falls said...

awww come on!! my theme song is "holding out for a hero"!!

hehe... thanks for voting for my blog!!

Rose DesRochers said...

Well there may be a hero to save the day but there is no Prince. LOL

Rose DesRochers said...

There is no such thing as perfect therefore how can the perfect man exist. He doesn’t. I however am married to my soul mate and have been happily married for 17 years. I accept him for who he is. He isn’t perfect but neither am I. He isn’t Prince Charming but that is ok because I’m not Cinderella. We are not living in a castle and there is no glass slipper. We are living in a three bedroom house bringing up two teens. Between cooking, cleaning and playing referee to our teens, we still have time for romance. Life is good and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Ps: I don't need pitty, I need a hot tub, a back rub and a weekend alone with my husband.

DEREK said...

I'm glad I didn't make up a prince in my fairytale to my niece, but there was a frog.

http://journals.aol.com/deveil/CelebrationofMyExhistance/entries/2101

You have quite a beautiful blog

thewriterslife said...

Omg...these are my thoughts exactly!

thewriterslife said...

Hey, Rose, I've been up and down your blog and I really love your views on soul mates and relationships. I'm wondering something...would you be interested in being interviewed for a book I'm working on about soul mate relationships? There's a form on one of my webpages at www.soulmatequeen.com. I'd love to hear your perspective on the issue!