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Thursday, July 13, 2006
Thursday, March 02, 2006
I Don't Even Know Your Last Name, but Let's Hook Up! : Teen Relationships
By Rose DesRochers :Today's Woman Expert Author
The times are changing. I have come to the conclusion that old fashioned dating is a thing of the past; today’s youth have turned to casual and random “hook ups.” Teens are in such a hurry to grow up. As the mother of a teen daughter, I have seen this first hand and it is frightening. Parents want the best for their children, but how do we protect them from the unhealthy consequences associated with random hook ups.
Excuse me, but ladies you need to have a little self-respect here.
In high school, dating has been replaced with random hookups that in turn result in meaningless relationships. What happened to taking things slow and getting to know one another? Young girls feel a need to have a boyfriend. They are unable to be independent. It is low self-esteem along with a need to feel loved by a male figure that leads girls into these unhealthy relationships.
Unlike when I was a teen dating, young men now no longer need to earn a girls respect. There is no longer any courtship. A young lady meets a young man and the next day there already boyfriend and girlfriend. What happened to the date? What happened to dinner and a movie and the hope for that kiss good night.
I guess I've been "out of the dating scene" for a long time. Courtship appears to be dead. What ever happened to the dating that we knew in high school? Girls need to look at Grandma and Grandpa. They are the reality of true love. Honestly though, the person they’ll be spending the rest of their lives with is most likely not going to be found in grade nine.
They may feel that they’re in love, but it is too early to be thinking of making that boy a life partner. There are many more fish in the sea. Teen girls shouldn’t be in such a rush to grow up. These are the years that they should be enjoying life, because one day they are going to wake up and look back on their teen years with regret. They’ll be thirty-seven years old with sagging breasts and a big behind. They will look in the mirror and say, “goodness what happened?” At that very moment they’ll long for the teen years that are now gone.
It’s okay to have crushes, but girls need to forget the steady relationships and if they do find a boy they like, they need to slow down. Take time to get to know him. Teens need to recognize the consequences of random hook ups and not getting to know a person. According to a poll conducted by NBC News and People Magazine nearly 3 in 10 (27%) thirteen to sixteen year-olds are sexually active. While some teens may realize the consequences of being promiscuous, many teens are not taking the measures to protect themselves. Sadly, random hookups represent today's culture, a culture where courtship is dead.
It's a scary thought, but if courtship is dead, what does this say for the future of marriage? Today’s teens will be tomorrow’s adults. Marriage, here today, gone tomorrow.
About the Author
About the Author: Rose DesRochers is the founder of Today’s Woman Writing Community , a supportive online writing community for men and women over 18. Rose DesRochers is also the founder of Blogger Talk Blog Community, a friendly fast growing blogging portal, offering bloggers support, advice, tools, tips and information about blogs and blogging. Vist Rose DesRochers's blog at Rose DesRochers- World outside my Window.
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Tuesday, January 31, 2006
No Prince Charming - You’ve got to be kidding me
By Rose DesRochers
It all started with, “Once upon a time there lived a noble gentleman who had a little girl.”
Stop right there and rewind! Before we get to the end of this story, where two people go off and live a fairy tale life, I have to tell you that there is no Prince Charming.
The sooner that we ladies wake up and realize that, the better life will be.
The average woman spends her life waiting for that perfect man, the one who completes her. He’s the one for whom she would not only give her heart, but her life. She keeps hoping and praying that Prince Charming will ride up on his horse and sweep her off her feet, and then they’ll ride off together and live happily ever after.
What you see in movies and read in books isn’t what real relationships are about.
The perfect man isn't out there. Do you want to know why he isn’t out there? Because, he doesn’t exist! In my opinion, there is no such thing as perfect. Like every woman, each man has his flaws, his weaknesses, and his strengths. How can a woman expect a perfect man, when we as women are not perfect?
In the movie, “The Perfect Man” Holly Hamilton (played by Hillary Duff) creates the illusion of "the perfect man" for her single mother, Jean Hamilton (played by Heather Locklear) who believes that she needs a man to be complete. Along the way Holly and Jean both learn that life isn’t really all that simple. Of course the movie is flawed because she winds up with a guy in the end. Go figure!
But my point in all of this is: Ladies true happiness comes from within and while you are busy searching for that perfect man; you could be missing out on someone very special.
There may be such a thing as true love, but you won’t find it kissing frogs. He won’t be placing a glass slipper on your foot and he won’t say the right words and do the right things all the time.
Quit dreaming about fairy tales and start living your life. As one learns to see one’s self more clearly, she will see others more clearly. Don’t be influenced by images and illusion.
Life's funny that way. We spend so much time searching for a Prince. We have to ask ourselves if we are looking for love while blindfolded? A successful relationship is hard work and it takes commitment from both parties to make it last a lifetime. Remember that we all have faults and we all have short comings. Sometimes you just have to meet somewhere in the middle.
While there may be no such thing as a true "Prince Charming" and life isn’t quite like you dreamed as a child. There certainly may be a man out there that can be the next best thing.
Ok, start the story. “Once upon a time there lived a noble gentleman who had a little girl.”
I bet you can’t wait to see the ending.
About the Author
About the Author: Rose DesRochers is the founder of Today’s Woman Writing Community , a supportive online writing community for men and women over 18. Rose DesRochers is also the founder of Blogger Talk Blog Community, a friendly fast growing blogging portal, offering bloggers support, advice, tools, tips and information about blogs and blogging. Vist Rose DesRochers's blog at Rose DesRochers- World outside my Window.
This work is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial-NoDerivs 2.5 License.
Wednesday, January 11, 2006
Clothes May Not Make You, but They Can Break You
By Rose DesRochers
Clothes may not make you but in school wearing the wrong ones can break you.
I recently read a blog entry where a student was complaining about wearing school uniforms. She thought that the school was attempting to make clones of the students by having them all the dress alike. She went on to complain that the uniform hid her beautiful form.
Silly girl! Did she ever stop to think it has something to do with the fact that some children's parents can't afford the Nike, Gap, Tommy Hilfiger, Fubu, Bongo, Converse and other brand names that teens find in style.
Clothes don't make the woman. Self-esteem shouldn't come from a woman's closet. One can look good, even in school uniform.
If she needs an ego booster, maybe she should try a new hair cut. It is acceptable to want to feel pretty, but I'll say it again, clothes don't make the woman. Does this teen really think that the way she dresses should have any reflection on who she is. A woman can look good even in an old lumber jacket, jeans and baseball cap.
In my opinion, School uniforms a 'great idea'. They put all teens on common ground. School should be about education. It isn't a fashion show. In no way do uniforms stand in the way of children expressing themselves.
Think of the children who hear comments like, "you're on welfare," "your mom shops at thrift stores," all because they are not dressed in the latest fashions.
Clothes shouldn't be an issue at school. But sadly they are. Children can be cruel to one another and with peer pressure and stereotypes already in school, not dressing in the latest cool fads can make you more of an outcast among your peers.
So what are your opinions on this? Do you think that school uniforms should be outlawed and children should be able to express themselves or do you feel that all schools should have a policy that requires children to wear uniforms?
About the Author
About the Author: Rose DesRochers is the founder of Today’s Woman Writing Community , a supportive online writing community for men and women over 18. Rose DesRochers is also the founder of Blogger Talk Blog Community, a friendly fast growing blogging portal, offering bloggers support, advice, tools, tips and information about blogs and blogging. Vist Rose DesRochers's blog at Rose DesRochers- World outside my Window.
This work is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial-NoDerivs 2.5 License.
Clothes may not make you but in school wearing the wrong ones can break you.
I recently read a blog entry where a student was complaining about wearing school uniforms. She thought that the school was attempting to make clones of the students by having them all the dress alike. She went on to complain that the uniform hid her beautiful form.
Silly girl! Did she ever stop to think it has something to do with the fact that some children's parents can't afford the Nike, Gap, Tommy Hilfiger, Fubu, Bongo, Converse and other brand names that teens find in style.
Clothes don't make the woman. Self-esteem shouldn't come from a woman's closet. One can look good, even in school uniform.
If she needs an ego booster, maybe she should try a new hair cut. It is acceptable to want to feel pretty, but I'll say it again, clothes don't make the woman. Does this teen really think that the way she dresses should have any reflection on who she is. A woman can look good even in an old lumber jacket, jeans and baseball cap.
In my opinion, School uniforms a 'great idea'. They put all teens on common ground. School should be about education. It isn't a fashion show. In no way do uniforms stand in the way of children expressing themselves.
Think of the children who hear comments like, "you're on welfare," "your mom shops at thrift stores," all because they are not dressed in the latest fashions.
Clothes shouldn't be an issue at school. But sadly they are. Children can be cruel to one another and with peer pressure and stereotypes already in school, not dressing in the latest cool fads can make you more of an outcast among your peers.
So what are your opinions on this? Do you think that school uniforms should be outlawed and children should be able to express themselves or do you feel that all schools should have a policy that requires children to wear uniforms?
About the Author
About the Author: Rose DesRochers is the founder of Today’s Woman Writing Community , a supportive online writing community for men and women over 18. Rose DesRochers is also the founder of Blogger Talk Blog Community, a friendly fast growing blogging portal, offering bloggers support, advice, tools, tips and information about blogs and blogging. Vist Rose DesRochers's blog at Rose DesRochers- World outside my Window.
This work is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-NonCommercial-NoDerivs 2.5 License.
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